WHAT ARE THE 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PERSONS: THE MOST COMPREHENSIVE AND EASIEST BOOK REVIEW PART 3 (FINAL)

This article is the remaining part of "What are the 7 habits of highly effective persons: the most comprehensive and easiest book review" The new readers are sincerely implored to read the previous two parts prior reading this one. Success doesn't come through shortcuts!

HABIT #4: THINK WIN-WIN

We are selfish. We are always self-centered in terms of acquiring benefits. Our society promotes jealousy and selfism unknowingly. This is the real problem that needs to be reformed from the very foundation. We want more of ourselves and less for everybody else. Our character is a very powerful tool for us to repair inside conception. The principle-centered paradigm manifests the character to be the source of mutual victories, extended trustworthy relationships. When the people you deal with have persuasive character, people open up before you without anxiety and that is when your opportunity is evident. Winning becomes natural when both sides are happy to attain the same foreseen results. This requires tremendous patience which is a product of a principle-centered paradigm.

HABIT #5: SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD

This is some serious stuff. You may be encountering misbehaving responses from your kids, employees, friends, neighbors, boss, or they would not be taking interest in talking to you. We consider this to be the fault of them, biasedly. while we sow the seeds for those responses ourselves, maybe unknowingly and unintentionally.

EMPATHIC LISTENING

Imagine a doctor prescribes any medicine for you without diagnosing your disease. Would you keep the same extent of faith in him again if he enforces you to use the prescribed medicine? We do not listen to people to really understand. Most of us listen to reply! And that is an inappropriate thing we frequently do when someone brings a problem before us. Our autobiography intervenes every time instead of understanding the problems of people. Providing people with bundles of suggestions, the advice gets in without people seek it. It is essential to listen to the people sincerely so that they keep opening themselves up. It is only possible when you keep yourself in the place of speakers. Empathic listening is the name of listening to people carefully without generating any responses in mind. You have to understand the words, emotions, and situations people are confronting.  When you begin to listen to them empathically, they receive the psychological air necessary for opening up.

HABIT 6: SYNERGIZE

One plus one is two when you calculate it narrowly. But the broader view can reveal that 1+1 can equal 4, 10, 500, 1150. Wondering how? It is when you understand the concept of synergy. It says that the whole is always greater than the parts of it. Two brains working individually within separated teams won’t produce greater than two brains working together for one team.

APPRECIATE THE DIFFERENCES

Everybody is grown with a different mindset. We view the world through the lens we have been using. Most conversations end without productive results because we do not understand the different perspectives, we each have, instead we criticize and damage the relationship by neglecting the other point of view. We rule our minds using prejudice, overconfidence. While synergy is the promotion of appreciating differences, people have. That is, to see the problems from their lens. It creates positive energy which establishes cooperative relationships and refurbishes even rusty ones to get alive again.

Remember, positive synergy produces great but negative synergy would produce less. Negative synergy rises due to the absence of commonality in purpose, goal, and set of principles. In negative synergy, people in a team would achieve less than they can individually.  

A THIRD ALTERNATIVE; KEY TO SYNERGIZE

Our damaged relationships are the result of either/ or approach. We assume ourselves to be flawless and therefore enforce people to travel through our vehicle. We can both be correct at the same time. Our priorities might differ but both can also be urgent and significantly important. Stephen Covey’s guide teaches us to find A Third Alternative to counter a case for a mutually agreeable resolution. No matter how critical your priorities are, you always have that third alternative that prevents the emergence of adversely affecting thoughts.

HABIT 7: SHARPEN THE SAW

Sharpening the saw means preserving and renewing the greatest asset you have- you. Your long-lasting lies in renewing yourself. A continuously cutting knife will lose its sharpness at a certain stage of the process. Consider yourself to be that knife! You have no time to escape from the rat race to sit patiently and think about your current standing. You need to polish your shoes again and again to seem gentleman. Similarly, you need to assess if you are propelling to what you’d envisioned in the beginning. Your body, mind, soul own astounding potential. To access and unleash that potential, refreshing is requisite. Neglecting to refresh yourself would not entice you to propel outside your comfort zone. Your comfort zone would decline the bar of your achievement possibilities. Therefore, it is mandatory to sharpen the saw before cutting the tree. When you take time to sharpen the saw, you easily re-attempt performing in accordance with the previous 6 habits. It enables you to evaluate yourself accurately and get ready to continue your journey.

FOUR DIMENSIONS OF RENEWAL

Highly effective people do not avoid themselves. They know the value of themselves. Hence, they regularly renew themselves by taking good care of these four dimensions:

THE PHYSICAL DIMENSION

Physical dimension involves activities necessary for your physical development; relaxing sufficient, exercising, healthy food eating. Thorough neglect of physical development would, sooner or later, result in health problems.

THE SPIRITUAL DIMENSION

The spiritual dimension is your core. It is a supremely important and private area of your life. Its renewal provides leadership to your life. Inferiority complex, low confidence, shyness, entangled gesture are outcomes of ignoring your spiritual renewal. The spiritual dimension involves listening to yourself in loneliness when no noise interrupts your communication within. Your happiness lies in your imagination of recalling the sweet memories you enjoyed in the past.

THE MENTAL DIMENSION

The mental dimension is connected to education. Schools are not the only education constituting institutions. Once school life is over, we begin to educate ourselves by watching television shows, social gatherings, reading materials, attending seminars, and learning new skills. Effective people choose rationally what to watch, whom to meet and whom not, what to read, and what skills need to be worked upon.  

THE SOCIAL/ EMOTIONAL DIMENSION

The Social/ emotional dimension comprises our interaction with other people. It focuses on habits 4, 5, and 6 – centered on the principles of interpersonal leadership, empathic communication, and creative cooperation. We can renew our social/ emotional dimension by adopting a win-win policy. This dimension, social and emotional, is tied together because our emotional life is primarily, not exclusively, developed out of manifested in our relationships with others. It can be accomplished in everyday normal interactions with other people by settling relationships.

FROM THE AUTHOR OF THIS BLOG

I laugh when people complain that their efforts failed. It has to be internally fully accepted that efforts do not promise success within any deadlines. We are all humans. We cannot manipulate success. Some people get results before the expected time and others wait longer. It must not be declared as final that if somebody gained weight in three months, the same would be applied universally. Patience is a charming and glorious garland for welcoming success.